Relationships? They tend to be complicated at times, involves alot of compromise, understanding, love, most of all needs God to be at the forefront.
This is a story about a young girl who had the life anyone could ask for. She
had a loving family a mother who was the executive director of a famous insurance company, father the owner of a very popular bank in Kingston. Let's say her name is Sara- she was a beautiful young girl 19 years old. She had all her subjects all with distinctions and was attending University. Her dream was to be a fashion designer and a pediatrician. She was what all the men was looking for as an ideal woman to be with she a had looks, personality, and a smile to die for.
Had she got much experience with relationships or men? No she did not. But in a world like this there are preys ready to devour her true pride.
One day she was in the town doing some shopping, in fact it was a very hot summer back in 2010. While she was going around the town she happened to stop at a perfume store. A guy was there watching her from the minute she set foot into the store. He was a very brave fellow and was not afraid of rejection. He introduced himself to Sara and
Sara had a liking for this young man- she always see the young man but never had the courage to say "hello". His name was Criss. Criss and Sara started to hang out alot that summer and they had quiet a lot going going, they had so much in common and they like almost everything.
By now you should know that Sara and Criss are in a relationship. To her he was her soul mate- he was very nice looking, had good manners, faithful, committed, a gentleman, all rounded, down to earth,knows how to make a girl feel appreciated, kind hearted but a little gangster but that was ok for her. It was about a month in the relationship and they thought they had known each so well, so they had to take things to another level.
She did her investigation very thoroughly this time, she wanted to know everything there was to him. Criss was in no playing with Sara he knew what he wanted, and that was a serious relationship. Something sparked between them that Sara could not explain; could that be true love finally appearing before her eyes? They could not be apart for very long there was a very strong communication between them it was like two hearts communicating with each other. She was out of a rough patch and Criss was a very understanding guy and very willing to help her get over her past. She questioned herself ever so often if he could be trusted, she prayed day and night. Although there was a question, her instinct just say "go ahead he can be trusted", she did not question it she followed her heart and continued the relationship with Criss.
He wanted to have sex with Sara. Sara had only one relationship in the past that lasted a couple of years; but ended since that guy was not faithful. She wanted a break. She was not the type to throw herself at men, or become promiscuous. Since it had been about a month since the break up; with this new found guy, sex was something she definitely had in mind.
They did not have anything planned one day they hang out on the beach, they were having so much fun that day. And it seems like every time Criss is around Sara he could not keep his hands off her. Things were getting too intense between the two, the attraction was too much to handle. They decided to hang out at a private place where they could be abit more open with their feelings. So they happened to reach a hotel in the area and things did get even more intense.Yes, they had sex and it was something they kept on doing, every time they got the chance to. It was too hard to keep them apart; they were so much in love. Seven months passed and they were still going strong, he met Sara's parents, of course they like him and she met Criss's parents they loved her. To them she was very nice to produce grand-kids.
Couple years passed and the relationship was going strong, they had God in their heart and they went through alot together from Sara going to University and even finishing her degree and Criss being a Car dealer in the area, the distance did not keep them apart. The love was very strong they trusted each other and everything was great. They had their little quarrels now and them but they found a way to resolve it. Criss was from a very good background his father always taught him to treat women with respect and to never give up, he was also taught never to go to bed with issues at heart. He and Sara always discuss any issues as they arise, he knew how to deal with the problems as they arrive. To him she was the "wife". He gave her everything there was to give they were just perfect foe each other. There was not a moment where Criss regret meeting Sara, he appreciated her for the person she is and she made his a very happy man.
It was exactly 2years and 9months Criss decided to take things to another level, he was 31 and thought it was just about time to get settled with his relationship. He had marriage in mind. And he was going to propose the Sara. They got married and had 2 beautiful children. Criss was a indeed a faithful man. They were a very happy couple and did many fun outings as a family.
Let's take a look back at Sara's relationship before she met Criss.
They met at a Christmas voluntary program. Sara was 16 years old and was very sociable but not that experienced in the mature world.She was introduced to Jarret by her sister and from there they became good friends. They talked about life and a whole lot more. Jarret was the kind of guy who knows his way around women, he was an "in the streets youth" he was very sociable, very friendly and well known by everyone and single as he told her. They started hanging out and it was fun. Of course he drove a Honda crv. He was very humble in character and down to earth. A few months after knowing each other Jarret wanted to get intimate with Sara, first he asked her for a kiss, she was very hesitant, she did not know how to do it. Jarret was a very patient fellow, he waited- because of course she was worth the wait.
One kiss lead to many more, but that alone could not keep Jarret interested. He wanted to do something more interesting, something more exciting. One night she was with him in his car, they kissed and fondled until they had sex that night. Yes, he took her innocence right there and then in the Honda crv. It was something unusual to Sara, something very special for Jarret- it was the best thing that had ever happened to him.
From there on they started having sex and doing it regular anywhere they can. They went everywhere, they had dinner, trips, movies, he took care of her very well. They were in love, they had a clear understanding, they trusted each other.
Two years passed and things started to change, he became distant, he hardly call and things no longer sparked between them. Sara decided to do some investigation. She dug up everything she possibly could. She went on face book to get information searched long and hard, went through his photos check the tags, but to no avail there was nothing to be found. She used other phones to trick him into thinking it was some old chick so she could play him but that did not work. Sh asked his friends about him but they had nothing to tell. One thing she realized was that she was never introduced to his parents but he was introduced to hers- now that was unbelievable after two years.
She had to take action, so she created a fake face book account and added Jarret, there was something very interesting going on with him. He did in fact have another relationship with someone out the of the country. She also had a baby for him which was very shocking because he never mentioned any of that; he seem like the perfect guy all single and well mannered at first. They had been together for 10years and was engaged but she was in the states living but only vacation to Jamaica when she gets the opportunity to. Well it seem like she had vacationed for almost 7months now. And there Sara started to put two and two together and realize that, that's the reason he was no longer that interested. She was so shocked, she had given him his all and now to find out all this it was heart breaking.
The best thing about Sara was that she was the type of person who did not let anything bad get her from enjoying life. It was a definite heart break to really find out in such a way. What Jarret did was that he hid his information, he restricted his statuses from certain people and she was one of them. He was a player in the game for years he was very precise and he did not let any hint known.
Angry she was she immediately let him know she was done with all the games, what he wanted was a lady to roll with but when his "wifey" came, her time was put on pause, how unfair? She left the message along with some photos of their relationship waiting for a response there was none.
She cried but that was just wasted tears she had to stop and let go of what was already done.
One day she got a call from him on what she had written and how it had caused his engagement to be at risk she did not bother to waste her time arguing, obviously he was never serious about her; she hung up the phone.
Time to move on and forget about Jarret. Of course she had several ways to get over them but none worked she was always thinking about him and what a mistake she made. If only she should have done her investigation before she made any serious move. She tried many ways to get over him: trying to talk to many persons at once going out with different persons, flirting. But none worked. Although she was going through a phase she did not have sex with any of the people she hung out with.
She gave up, she decided to forgive herself of the mistake she had made and slowly she forgot about him. She decided to take a break from all the drama and just take time to notice the finer things in life, time to appreciate the things God has blessed her with. That she did and she prayed never to fall into the hands of another player. She kept her faith and remained calm. God did deliver her and that;s where she met the love of her life Criss.
In life, all the decisions we make will affect our tomorrow. Life present itself for us to mess up so we could realize where we went wrong and move on with lesson well taught. Fate has a way of getting people together and breaking them apart. The fact still remains we are the driver of our own destiny. Nothing in this life happens without a reason, we may not know the reason but one day and some how the reason will be known. How faithful are you? Have you ever cheated? How do you view your relationship?